Please note that official support for this menu version has now ceased. There are still plenty of users, though, and the forum is still running. Some of our long-time users may be able to help you out.
I just upgraded to 3.5.15 but still the same problems reported.
Before you take the time to check out the stite, can you point me to any faqs that might deal with this? Perhaps I have some bad code inserted somewhere.
the squished together part is an easy one... You are using images in your menu. The squished effect seems to occur only in IE; the menu renders before the images are fully cached. If you set the width attribute inside each <img> tag to the actual width of the image, then the browser will know exactly how much space to reserve for each image and you won't get squished images.
As for the not showing up part, John's suggestion to move the <script> tags out of the head and into the body will usually take care of that, particularly if the offending browser is Opera.
Sorry my response from yesterday was so abrupt. "Pressing matters" here at work took me away from the Forum, and I wasn't able to dig further into your code.